Month: October 2015

What’s a Mom to do?

October is the month of germ adjustment in our home. With my son in preschool three half days a week and my daughter going to the gym’s daycare regularly now we are exposed to a slew of new germs every September.  My son’s nose is perpetually running and my sleeves are always covered in dry snot as I cannot keep enough tissues around my home and person.

A few weeks ago my son and daughter had low grade fevers and a lot of congestion for a a few days. It hit my son first then my daughter.  Last week it hit my man.  Out of the three of them, I was dreading my Man’s the most.  He is a miserable sick person,  No one understands the pain or trauma of his “pain and anguish” because he “hides” it by bemoaning the fact he cannot find a comfortable way to sleep or needs absolute quiet while he heals.  When he takes Medicine he complains that it only lasts for two hours in between the doses.  It is very tough to be him.

In order to give my guy a chance to heal, I took the kids to the zoo on my day off last week.  It was a beautiful fall day and the kids needed to be outside! As it was just the three of us picture opportunities where few but I did get some nice ones!

First stop the Primate house!

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The Primate house was a bit crowded and my son got bored, what he really wanted was alligators!

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The Snakes are my ode to Harry Potter and the Sorcerer’s Stone!

After this we spent more time outside.  We rode the Carousel, the draft horses, and my son rode on the train.  Unfortunately no pictures of these activities, but yes my 10 month old had her first horse ride!!!!

Unknowingly to us we did get to see the polar bears before Klondike passed, though I am not sure if this is Klondike.

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Shortly after this we took a little lunch break! And gave my daughter the chance to stretch her legs! My son loved the freedom to run in the little grotto that we found. After a little lunch break we went back to exploring.  By this time I was ready to start heading home as we have about an hour drive and I did not want the kids to be in the car to late in the day and run the risk of falling asleep.  By now my son was clammering for the lions and tigers.  My game plan, to see the big cats then head home.  I should have remembered, ” Man plans, God laughs”.

We made it to the cat house after no small drama that involved finding new pants for my son.  2015-10-21 14.37.21 2015-10-21 14.38.36 2015-10-21 14.38.28 While checking out the lions my son made a friend.  An almost two year old boy who also loves dinosaurs and to run.  These two where fast friends and screamed if separated.  This is where my plan to head home fell apart.  It took another two hours of exploring before we were able to leave.

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Both kids fell asleep on the way home, both kids fought going to bed at bed time.  My man was still grouchy when we got home, In the end, it was worth it. We made memories and potentially a friend.  Nothing out weighs that!

Now it is another week.  And it is my turn to fight the “October Bug”.  I am not worried, at the end is a sunny day!

Perceptions

The last few weeks I have read many articles and had many conversations about how people perceive others.  How moms see other moms (thank you similiac!)

http://similac.com/end-mommy-wars?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_term=mom%2520judging&utm_content=mommy%2520judging&utm_campaign=nonbrand_mommy%2520wars_broad

There are also popular blogs like The Mighty were parents and people facing challenges are asked to sound off on challenges they face.

As I can see the need to get a situation out there to release the frustration and pain , let’s face it I have done that!  I applaud the people sharing their story. This is what I do have a problem with, the need to be a victim and the desire to keep judging others.

We all have our issues.  We all have something we are dealing with in our lives.  There are many morals and “rules” in various religions that all say the same thing, You can only judge if your are not able to be judged.  Such a paragon would not exists as they would be judged in judging!

I try very hard not to judge, yet there is always some part of us that questions the actions of others.  This weekend We took my kids to a Halloween event.  Did I question the parent in line with there under 1 child for a ride? Yes. Did I condemn? No, I waited to see if they were going to try and put the child on the ride.  Did we see various parenting styles, yes, did we condemn . . . this is tricky.

There is one parenting style that I cannot stand that is unfortunately very popular.  One of the attractions is a bungee bridge and climbing area.  It is designed for children 2-7 yet much older kids goon all the time.  No problem, older siblings, I get it.  What I do not get is not monitoring your children to make sure they are not pushing or careful of the other children exploring the same attraction.  My son is only 3 and already knows tp watch out for kids smaller than him and to slow down if they are playing together, even to help if they are open to it.  Why you cannot teach your 7+ year old the same concept and allow mass stampeded to hurt the younger children is beyond me.  I have seen this not only at this particular attraction, nor just at this location.  I have seen it at various playgrounds, birthday parties, and children “play” areas.  So yes I will judge you if you are not teaching your kids manners . . .and putting your child in a dangerous situation.   Beyond that, how your raise your child is on you, everyone is different and we all live in glass houses.

We all know what it is liked to be judge, and if you are anything like me you judge yourself enough not to add others judgement to the list.  To the Mom who was renewing their pass next to us this weekend, I know you are coming to grips to being in your early 30’s, but your not old.  You are perfect for you life.  Take it from the Mom next to you who is dealing with turning 40 in the next year . . . .

Motivation

What motivates and inspires you?

This is a question I am asking my self a lot lately. There is a quote I fell in love with when I was in High School.  Every so often I bring it up and each time it has a new perspective depending on the stage I am at in life. Each time is profound.

“One must learn to live, not just how to make a living. But how to find a path of beauty in this life. We begin by knowing who we are.”

~ Chief Powhatan Wahunsunacock

At this point, I know who I am : A Mom, a writer, a friend, a warrior.

My beauty: helping others, listening to my children play, loosing myself in a story.

The one thing that is not set, making a living.  They say do what you love and the rest will follow.  Do what you are good at and the money will come. I was a great teacher, but never financially stable.  I am an amazing Mom (or so my family tells me), yet we still struggle.  I enjoy writing and sharing my stories, still not bringing in the income.

Ironically, what is working: cleaning!  Before my family expanded, first with my love, then with the loves of my life.  I cleaned every weekend like I was built for it.  People would come to my home, I would apologize for the mess and they would look around bewildered at what I was talking about.  This has not changed about me, only my ability and opportunity has changed.

My family all nap from 11 – 1:30 PM every day.  This means I must be quiet as I am unable to nap at that time it was my prime cleaning time for so long.  Now it is my study time as still try and finish school (always good to have a back up!)  Soon it will by my writing time on the days I am not cleaning other peoples homes.  For many this does not seem like a great way to spend there days for me it’s perfect. Why?  It allows me to LIVE!  I can spend time with my two greatest beauties that push me to do more, be more.  That is something I never had while working at a traditional job.

Would you not do what ever it takes for these two?

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I will and am!  And it gives me the freedom to make memories with them, that is motivation enough for me!  What motivates you?